Wednesday, March 31, 2010

February 2010 Recap

Wow! I guess we’ve been busy the past couple of months! Since I’m about 1 1/2 months behind, I’m going to do general monthly recaps for February and March. Sorry!

School was the primary focus of our time in February, followed closely by the Olympics. I have always been a fan of the Olympics, but became even more so when I was a volunteer at the 2002 Olympics in Salt Lake City. I worked in the Athlete’s Lounge at the Delta Center (at that time), the location for figure skating and short-track speed skating. I was fortunate enough to work with Apolo Anton Ohno almost every day! And here we are…eight years later…and he is still an Olympics celebrity! Ryan and I stopped everything we were doing when Apolo had an event. We celebrated when he won each additional medal, and were disappointed when he crashed or was disqualified. We also enjoyed watching skiing, snowboarding, and the other sports. We went into a little bit of withdrawal when the Olympics ended, but watched considerably less TV!
Our cub scout pack meeting for February was celebrating the 100th birthday/anniversary of the Boy Scouts. I talked about things that were happening in the country 100 years ago, and then we had a special guest speaker who has been involved with scouting for over 50 years! He has a fun collection of scout stuff from the past 50 years, so he talked about the changes in uniforms, awards, books, etc. He spotted Ryan in the front row with all of his arrow points and called him up as a "helper." He had no idea that Ryan was the cubmaster's son! He just saw the long line of arrow points and called on him, pointing out the long row of arrow points. Of course, Ryan loved it!After our guest speaker finished speaking, we played a couple of fun birthday games and then had birthday cake. I think it went very well.Ryan and I had a wonderful experience in February, due to the generosity of a lifelong friend. My friend Curtis has season tickets to the Jazz games, and his seats are just a few rows behind the Jazz bench. He was unable to attend a game one night, and gave us his tickets!Curtis is also involved with several philanthropic organizations, including some with Thurl Bailey, former Jazz player and current Jazz commentator. Curtis not only gave us his tickets, but made arrangements for us to meet Thurl during the game. We also met Pace Mannion, former University of Utah player, who is now a commentator with Thurl Bailey. When we went up to the area where they broadcast, there was a crowd of people around watching and hoping for an autograph or a picture. Curtis told us to walk right up to the security guard, tell him that Curtis had sent us, and he’d let us in. He did! We had fun taking pictures on the set and getting autographs. The crowds waiting were very jealous, and we felt like VIPs!Ryan was also thrilled to find out that Thurl was number 41 when he played for the Jazz…Ryan’s number this year on Jr. Jazz!

Sunday, March 7, 2010

Ryan’s Swim Meet ~ February 20, 2010

On Saturday, February 20, Ryan had a swim meet at an aquatic center near the University of Utah. I was required to be at graduation at Kingsbury Hall, on the University of Utah campus. I was hoping that since I didn’t have any students coming for graduation that I could skip it entirely, but I wasn’t able to make that arrangement. So Rara & Papa took Ryan to his meet.

I had signed Ryan up for his usual events when I did his registration. But as his first regular event was coming up, he went over to his coaches to check in. They had him down for an event TWICE AS LONG as his usual event! His main coach asked him if he wanted to try it, and he said he did! He tried it, and came in 4th!

We don’t get the official results for another couple of weeks. But he beat his own best time in his two other events, and set a new time for the new event. Rara and Papa said they think he came in second place in his other two events!

I am so proud of Ryan for being courageous and willing to try the new distance! I am also proud of him for beating his own time in his events. (With all of the excitement, as well as confusion about the events, no pictures were taken.)

WGU Semi-Annual Meetings ~ February 16-20, 2010

Our WGU meetings were a little bit different this year. My group of close friends (The Southern Girls) have all gone different directions within WGU, so we no longer attend the same departmental and smaller group meetings together. Since some of those changes were made, I have become much closer to a few people who were my friends before, but have truly now become my close friends. I was so happy to be able to spend more time with them.

A few months ago, we were given a couple of challenges. My work team of about 15 people won the “graduation challenge.” We had the most students graduate among all of the teams. I was second-highest in my team, as well! We were told that we could choose wherever we wanted to go for dinner on our one free night (Wednesday), and WGU would pick up the tab. We chose to go to The Melting Pot. I have only been there once before due to the cost. It was wonderful! Yes, our bill for the 15 of us was almost as much as one of my paychecks! We were sure glad that we weren’t paying! It was a lot of fun to spend an informal evening with my work team and get to know them better. I have only been working with them for a few months, so I didn’t know many of them outside of work circumstances. It was a fun evening. (Photos courtesy of one of my co-workers.) On Thursday night, we had the semi-annual President’s award dinner. I was one of a handful of employees honored for 5 years of service at WGU. I passed my 5 year point on November 15. My former boss and wonderful friend, Tom, was also honored for his 5 year anniversary. In previous years, a photographer has taken pictures of each honoree with President Bob Mendenhall, and then the entire “cohort” of employees celebrating the 5 year anniversary has a group picture taken. For reasons unknown, the pictures didn’t happen this year. So we took our own. WGU now has a chapter of Kappa Delta Pi, the honor society for educators. Two of my good friends are the advisors, and invited me to join as one of the employee members. They had all of the supplies, paperwork, programs, decorations, etc. shipped to my house, so I think they felt obligated. :) Friday, February 19, was the chartering and initiation ceremony. One of my students (originally from Pakistan and now living in New York) was asked to be one of the officers, so she and her husband came to attend. It was fun to meet her in person!Saturday, February 20, was graduation. For the first time in a long time, I didn’t have any students travel to attend graduation. But my student and her husband decided to stay and attend the graduation ceremony. Also, since no photographer was taking pictures of the 5-year-service honorees with President Bob Mendenhall on Thursday, I had a friend take a picture of us at graduation. Perhaps it was more fun to have us in our full academic regalia in the picture anyway. It’s always an extremely week, but always a lot of fun to spend time with my good friends.

Playing Catch-Up

Wow! I can’t believe that my last post was February 15! And I only had one post in February! That should illustrate how crazy February was. I have some time today, so I’ll try to get caught up a little bit. But I’m going to keep everything in separate posts instead of one huge post. More shortly…

Monday, February 15, 2010

I’m a Yucky, Yucky Mom!

On my birthday in October 2007, we attended a session of General Conference for The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. Elder Quentin Cook shared a story about his son. One time when he was very little and couldn’t say his Ls, something wonderful happened (I don’t remember what). He exclaimed, “I’m a yucky, yucky boy!” Ryan and I have adopted that phrase and use it often.

About three weeks ago, I was one of the speakers in our Sacrament Meeting at church. The other speaker was Brent Nelson, a young man in our ward who is heading on his mission to the Philippines. He was the studentbody president last year at Woods Cross High School, and is a very cute and friendly guy. The Sunday that we both spoke, the entire chapel was packed, the overflow area was packed, and most of the cultural hall was full all the way back to the stage. There were hundreds of people there!

Ryan has recently become aware of the discrepancy in financial resources between our family and the families of his friends. Many of his friends have huge, beautiful homes, flat-screen TVs in their bedrooms, and every toy imaginable. He has also informed me that he is not in the MOST popular crowd at school, since he doesn’t play competitive little league football. Keep in mind that he participates in every other competitive sport. We have looked into football. It is almost $300 per session. That is obviously out of our tight budget.

The past several months, Ryan and I have had several discussions about his ability to be “popular” without having the biggest house, a flat screen TV in his room, or participating in football. After Brent Nelson’s farewell, we talked about Brent. His family lives in our neighborhood in a modest home. He did not participate in sports, but chose to participate in the high school musical groups. Yet he was elected to be the studentbody president by his peers, and therefore, one of the most popular kids at the school. Ryan and I talked about how much we love being around Brent because he is so friendly. He is always smiling, and always has a sincere interest in what people are doing. Everyone considers him to be their friend, because he treats everyone as a friend. I encouraged Ryan to use Brent as a model of the kind of person he wants to be, and to treat everyone with kindness and respect.

Only days after Brent’s farewell, we had Ryan’s SEP conference with his teacher. We talked about Ryan’s academic performance (great), his citizenship performance (wonderful), and his goals for this current term. As we were finishing up, Ryan’s teacher said, “May I share something with you that I’ve noticed about Ryan that I think is really, really neat?” Of course a mom always wants to hear good things about her kid, especially something that his teacher has observed! She said, “Ryan has an amazing ability to be a friend to everyone. His primary circle of friends consists of some of the most popular kids in the school, yet he is friendly and kind to even the least popular kids in the school. He always takes a moment to talk with someone who is alone, or help someone that he sees needs help with something. Kids like Ryan don’t come along very often.” I probably don’t need to tell you that I got a little teary during her comments. What a wonderful thing to hear after I had just challenged him to be that kind of a person!

Ryan’s teacher went on to say, “Ryan also has an interesting ability to interact with people of any age. I have seen him carry on intelligent conversations with adults that just amaze me. He is very knowledgeable in many areas, so it’s fun to watch him discuss things that most kids wouldn’t know anything about, or would be uncomfortable talking with an adult without their parents around. It’s fun to watch him interact with people.”

I am always proud of Ryan. He is such a great kid, a wonderful helper, and a thoughtful person. He works hard at everything he does. I know how amazing he is, but it is always fun to hear others tell me. I am truly a “yucky, yucky” mom!

Tuesday, January 19, 2010

Finally…Sunshine!

I must say, my 2010 has not been off to a good start. We started off the year with a funeral, which should tell you something right there. In addition, I had a couple of very disappointing personal experiences in the first couple of weeks of the year: one relationship, one financial. It hasn’t helped my mood that we have been in the midst of our annual icky inversion the past couple of weeks. It has been regularly mentioned on the news that the Salt Lake City area and counties along the Wasatch Front have the worst air quality in the nation!

Last Saturday seemed to be the last straw. Ryan’s weekly job is separating the clothes for laundry. We went downstairs into the laundry room (where we usually only go once a week), and our ceiling had collapsed, and was continuing to drip. EVERYTHING was wet! Everything on the counters and floor, as well as streaks of water stains down the front of one cabinet. It was a mess! Papa and Ryan had planned to go to the International Auto Expo, so I still sent them off to do that. Rara came over and helped me get everything cleaned up. I had planned to spend the entire time that Ryan was gone working on my school work. Instead, we cleaned the basement.

Rara traced everything back and found the problem: a small crack in the tank of the upstairs toilet. Apparently water had been slowly dripping and seeping for quite a while, building up in the ceiling. We made a quick fix to that and called the plumber. Since it’s a holiday weekend, the charge for an initial visit would have been quite large. We felt that we had made enough of a fix to make it a couple of days until the holiday weekend was over.

So…now to the sunshine. Kristin and I have been thinking about something fun that we could do again with Ryan and Abby. We decided that since Park City is always above the inversion, it would be fun to go up there. I mentioned the Utah Olympic Park. The more we talked about it, the more we thought that would be a great idea. Plus, we had 2 for 1 coupons from the Entertainment book!

The Utah Olympic Park is located just off of I-80 and Kimball Junction. Most people know that it was the site of the bobsled, luge, skeleton, Nordic jump, and freestyle skiing events during the 2002 Olympic games. But what most people don’t know is that it is the official training site for not only the US athletes in those areas, but for several other countries, as well.
We went on a guided tour by bus, and were able to go to the actual sites and starting points for each of those events. Our tour guide was a former Olympic athlete, so he was able to provide a lot of fun details about the events and training. At one point, he commented that kids start training for Nordic ski jumping at about 10 years old. He looked at Ryan and said, “How old are you?” When Ryan answered that he was 9, our tour guide told him that he was just about ready to start. This happened just after Ryan had told me that he was too cold and wanted to stay on the bus. He has decided that he’ll stick with the Summer Olympic sports!When our tour was finished, we went back into the Alf Engen Ski Museum & George Eccles Salt Lake 2002 Olympic Winter Games Museum. We enjoyed learning about the history of skiing, remembering some of the highlights of the 2002 Olympic games, and participating in several activities which simulated the various sports. Since the Vancouver Olympic games start in about three weeks, we are excited about all of the new things that we learned about winter Olympic sports.When we finished seeing all of the fun things at the Utah Olympic Park, we drove to Park City’s Main Street. The Sundance Film Festival starts later this week, so the banners were up, and they are getting ready for the crowds and celebrities.We had an extremely yummy lunch at Red Banjo Pizza (also using the Entertainment Book coupon). Ryan and Abby stuck with their regular plain cheese pizza and garlic bread. Kristin and I tried the chicken & artichoke pizza with lemon juice squeezed on it, as well as the zucchini sticks. Yum! When we finished lunch, we walked down Main Street to the Rocky Mountain Chocolate Factory and bought some absolutely scrumptious things for dessert.

Thanks, Kristin & Abby, for a fun day! We enjoyed experiencing the sunshine – both literally and figuratively. We really needed that!

Saturday, January 2, 2010

Happy (?) New Year 2010

It has already been an interesting start to the New Year. As mentioned in the previous post, we had a lot of fun entertaining Alice & Claire with Rara & Papa over New Year’s Eve and New Year’s Day, while their mommy and daddy celebrated, and took a much-deserved break.

But the new year has already had a poignant development. My dad has a cousin who has been mentally and physically challenged since birth. To respect his privacy, I will refer to him as “M.” His parents and sister passed away several years ago. He has one remaining brother, but he has also had his challenges in life. To also respect his privacy, I will refer to him only as “L.” M spent much of his life living in the American Fork school for people with mental and physical developmental issues. When it closed, M was taken in by one of the teachers and his family. He lived with them until they were no longer able to care for him (only about 3 years ago). At that point, M moved into a group home for the mentally/physically challenged, located in Orem. Although he is in his mid-50s, we often say that physically he is in his mid-80s, and mentally he is closer to 4 or 5 years old.

My dad is the “family patriarch,” since all of the older generation is now gone. He and my mom (and usually Ryan) have had a tradition where they take M and L out to lunch and then shopping the week between Christmas and New Years. They had already scheduled to go last Wednesday, December 30. We had made plans to go to “3VE” with Kristin & Abby, so Ryan was kind of disappointed that he wouldn’t be going on the lunch/shopping trip, but he definitely wanted to go to “3VE” more.

As I also mentioned in this post, we rode FrontRunner (the commuter train) from Bountiful to downtown Salt Lake City. Just as we had boarded the train and started heading in to Salt Lake, Dad called. It was about 1:00. He asked where I was, and if I could go to their house and get some phone numbers. He said that M had “passed out,” and they needed to contact some people. That was about all he said. I told him that we were already on the train, and he told me not to worry about it

We went on and enjoyed our afternoon. When Ryan and Abby were making their books at the Discovery Gateway, I called Mom to check on everybody. By this time, it was about 5:30. She gave me more details to the story. They picked up L in Salt Lake, and then picked up M in Orem. About halfway between the front door and the car, M said that he needed to stop and rest. They stopped for a minute, and then proceeded to the car. M was having a hard time getting into the car, so L went around and lifted him in from the back, while Mom & Dad helped lift him in from the front. Apparently L felt like he was doing all of the lifting, and said, “I need a little help here, M. (pause) M? (pause) M? (pause) I don’t think he’s breathing.” They realized that he was not breathing, and was beginning to turn blue. L started to give him mouth-to-mouth, while Dad ran into the house to see if he could call a couple of people (when he called me for numbers when he couldn’t track the numbers down at M’s house), and Mom called 911. The 911 dispatcher asked them several questions, and was ready to dispatch an ambulance, just as Dad came back to the car. Dad said he knew where the hospital was, and that they were very close. He said they could get there faster than an ambulance could come to them.

They arrived at the hospital, and M was rushed in, with several people performing CPR as they whisked him away. Mom & Dad & L waited for a couple of hours while he was somewhat stabilized and a variety of tests were performed. Mom & Dad were able to talk with L about the possibility of having to make the decision to let M go. After a couple of hours, and several tests, the medical personnel suggested that Mom & Dad & L go, but assured them that they would keep them posted on any developments.

M never regained consciousness. Yesterday afternoon (January 1), Dad received a call that M was going, and the decision about life support would need to be made. Dad went and got L, and they went to the hospital together. They were able to sit in M’s room and talk for a while, and then had the life support turned off. M was gone within about 30 minutes.

There were three “tender mercies” that surrounded these events, for which we are all very grateful. First, M was with his brother and my parents when it happened. They were able to care for him, and know that everything had been done that could be. Second, Ryan was not with them. I have not given the full account for obvious reasons. If Ryan were there, it would have been a horrible series of events to remember, and would have likely stayed with him for the rest of his life. Third, M held on for a couple of days, enough for L to make peace with letting him go, and knowing that his passing was for the best. Although it was a rough way to start the new year, we are all grateful that everything happened the way it did.